When you see this list of the four types of fears, you may notice you are in a fear zone right now. You might remember a time when you have responded with each fear reaction.
Many of us enjoy avoiding conflict. We drop friends, jobs or relationships rather than working through them. We pride ourselves on being diplomatic and rarely fighting but that is because we will exit or smooth over difficult situations.
The fight reaction is often encouraged in some workplaces and occupations. However, a toxic workplace can disrupt your personal harmony.
Indecision seems like you are assessing options but you may actually be frozen. It can be difficult to recognise that you are frozen. Often friends and family identify it earlier than you do.
At the time, you may feel like you are the bigger person but this is just another fear reaction. It is common in workplace bullying for the victim to snap into please mode.
Which reaction is the best?
Some occupations, cultures and even family dynamics prefer a certain fear response. There is no winning fear reaction. It is fine to experience fear, it is a survival instinct. We can get to know our fears without judgement but with awareness.
How to face your fears
Thich Nhat Hanh recommends that we look deeply at our fears and then fear cannot control us. This can be achieved through mindfulness meditation which involves inviting our feelings and fears into our awareness and looking deeply into the face of fear.
As Mark Twain said, ‘I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.' If you want to learn how to meditate and face your fears, come to our mindfulness meditation class. We have designed specific face-your-fears meditations which will push you past the limitations you are so used to living with.